Understanding a Complex Mind

Today's message is a little different from the rest. I really wanted to expand to people who are interested, confused, or even struggling with the mentality of others as well as themselves. However, I am not writing this to act like I am a doctor or I know exactly what I am talking about. I am sharing this information for those who maybe don't know about it, and to help others know that they are not the only ones struggling with having it, or understanding it...

Let me start by asking a couple questions:

Ever wonder why some people are SO selfish and why some are so SELFLESS?

Why does their brain think so differently than mine? Is it because of how different our lives may have been?

Why can't I be on the same page as others?

Fact number 1. Type C personality disorder. This is when a person is narcissistic (is which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for excessive attention and admiration, troubled relationships, and a lack of empathy for others.) But this also means the person can be depressed and blame it on others, on the borderline of being extremely happy or extremely sad, and also leads to very ADDICTIVE behaviors. This could be drinking, substance abuse, sexual addictions, and verbal/mental abuse but blames OTHERS.

***If you deal with this type of person, an amazing book to read is called My NARCISSIST and I. How to find happiness. by Katarina Valentini.

Fact number 2. Cognitive distortions (which usually needs CBT therapy) refers to inflated and inaccurate thoughts. "All or Nothing" way of thinking which means that something is one way, or not that way at all. Examples: "I answered one question wrong, so I’m a failure." "I didn’t get the promotion, so I might as well quit my job." "I made a mistake because I’m a bad person." "I missed one gym session, so I’ll give up on exercise for the week."

Face number 3. People who base their success on their own work and believe they control their life have an internal locus of control. In contrast, people who attribute their success or failure to outside influences have an external locus of control. Examples of internal locus could be, "I made this success happen!" "Look what I can do!" "I am determined to make life better." Then on the flip side external locus could be, "Why does everything bad happen to me?" "There is nothing I can do about it." "Whats the point of trying?" "The test was flawed and they put stuff on there that wasn't fair. That is why I failed."

It is very hard to understand the human brain. I have found a new and profound interest in psychology and trying to wrap my head around how complex are minds and heads really are. A huge portion that contributes to how a person thinks is a large reflection on their background, upbringing, and health. PLEASE remember that there are answers to the questions I listed above. Unfortunately, if a person wants help for themselves or wants to change, THEY. HAVE. TO. DO. IT. FOR. THEMSELVES.

Please try not to expect yourself to do it for them. Take care of yourself FIRST. Let that person find who they are, alone. Be strong. But also understand it is not you....