How to: Choose the right friends

Who the hell do they think they are? How could anyone be so selfish and conceded? Who would ever want to be their friend?

We are human, we say these things about people naturally. Even if we don't say it, we think it. When it comes to our friends, we tend to notice the things they say and do, or not say and do. We question ourselves sometimes about our choice of friendship. We get frustrated with our friends and we may even fight or argue. But how we do pick the right friends? Do they pick us? What if they are good people? Well, today I will do my best to explain my own logic behind who you choose to be friends with. It seems obvious to look for the right "qualities" in a friend. Nice, caring, funny, chill, friendly, etc. The worst part about getting to know people is that everyone puts on a "fake face" when they first meet someone. It is all small talk, giggles, telling short stories, and asking very surface level questions. Then when you start to hang out with them more, you realize they are really snobby, or rude, or do things you don't agree with. Maybe they even become aggressive or they want everything to do their own way. It sucks when this happens because now you are seeing them as their true colors. But we don't want to be lonely and not have them as a friend? So what can we do? Well, or starters, try to convince yourself that they really are not your true friend if they do things that hurt you. You want a friend who would do anything for you. A real friend should listen to your feelings, and let you vent to them without judgement. They should give you healthy and good advice when you ask for it. They should be willing to tell you the truth about anything and everything and give you a shoulder to cry on. It should feel easy and safe to be around them. You don't want a friend who goes and talks crap about you when you aren't around. You want them to stand up for you to others when your name comes up in conversation in a bad vibe. No matter the distance, the time, or the situation, they should be reachable. I am not saying reachable by phone or texting, but you should be able to communicate with them when something comes up that needs to be talked about or addressed. REAL friends don't hook you up with the wrong people, or make you party and drink with them, or force you into doing anything you don't want to do. In all reality, friends should be like your family. They ARE your family. A girl friend or a guy friend should make you feel appreciated, loved, and cared for. You are important, and a friend needs to remind you that you are. No matter what relationship you are in, where you live, what your family is like, or what decisions you make. A REAL friend is someone who stands by you through it all. So how do you find them? You don't. Everything happens for a reason, and when you are in a tough situation, the people who are really there for you, will show their faces. If you don't have a friend like this, you just wait. Because someone will unveil themselves and they will be your friend for life.