Where is the Exit?

"When someone leaves your life, the exits are never equal." -Jessalyn Roussin

Let me ask a question we all ask ourselves: Why the hell did I let that person in?

Why did you let that one person in? Why did you allow them to come into your life and either destroy things, or heal things? Why did you made the decision to follow there footsteps, or break the chain and change? These are all questions that I believe every normal human-being asks themselves. Because overall, we all have shitty people in our lives. But to counteract that, we all have beautiful people in our lives. I don't think that we always have a choice of who comes into our lives. We can't help those lousy neighbors who move in or those crappy bosses that don't get anything done. For the majority of our time, we always have the choice to choose who gets to stay and who gets booted out. When I say, "The exits are never equal" its because they aren't. I'm not talking about physical door exits either. I'm talking about the way in which someone leaves our life. We get to make the decision to choose who is healthy for us, who supports us, who drags us down, and who deserves our time and love and energy. I could ask obvious questions like, do you like people who steal from you? Do you like people who criticize you? Do you like people who cheat? I would hope everyone would say "NO!" But when you think about those you have allowed to be in your life, do you look past those kinds of things? Or do you recognize the problem and let them go? It is extremely hard when it involves family, friends, and loved ones. Because no, we don't enjoy being stolen from or lied to or cheated on. Although, are you allowing it? Have you stood up for yourself and talked about the problem? This does NOT just relate to me. This relates to anyone who has someone toxic in their life. No matter what we can not be scared how big the "exit" or the "hurt" is going to be by letting someone go who is no good for us. I love my family. I love my friends. I love my fiance. But overall, in the future if I allow them to continue doing things that either destroy my future or other relationships, then they can take that exit out. Immediately. I will show them the door. It takes a sense of confidence and self-control to realize what is best for yourself or your family. Each person makes a certain size impact on our lives. Our mother makes a massive impact, but a neighbor makes very little of an impact. We get to choose how deep we let our relationships go. We can decide who needs to get the boot or who gets to stay. Are we willing to be vulnerable to let others in? Because the only way we will ever get to allow good people in, is to put down our walls, hang up those EXIT signs, and be ready to meet and greet new hearts and new faces.